There are basically two kinds of people in life. There are those who make deposits and those who make withdrawals. We need the kind of friends in our life who make deposits. I realize that there are exceptions to this statement. There are instances where our friends cannot make a deposit into us due to what they may be going through for a period of time.
What kind of friends do you have? What kind of friend are you? We attract who we are; not what we want in life. Have you ever seen someone walking toward you and you prayed, “Lord, please come and take us to heaven!” Have you have ever left the presence of another person feeling refreshed? We are to be a refreshing Christian, an inspirational friend. Here is an acronym to help find great friends and keep them:
F ind Them– If you will show yourself friendly you will have more friends than you have ever imagined. Take the time to seek out new relationships, even if it means traveling great distances.
R espect Them– Treat your friends the way you want to be treated. Also, be sure to treat someone else’s friends with the respect their friends give to them. I have seen people take advantage of other people’s friends for self gain.
I nvest In Them– Be sure to ask about their families. The most important relationship in a person’s life is his/her family. If they have children, get to know their names. When you learn something valuable be sure to pass it along to them. If you wish to be valuable, then add value!
E ncourage Them– Everybody needs at least one Barnabas in their life. As you know, it was Barnabas who built a bridge for the Apostle Paul to become connected with the Early Church. Be a bridge builder instead of a fence builder.
N etwork With Them– Take the time to do life together. Maybe there is a missional project that the both of you or a group of friends can do together. Be sure to pray together.
D iscuss With Them-When it is appropriate be transparent with your close friends. Being open with them will let them know how much you value them and it will give them the opportunity to pour in godly wisdom into your life.
S ucceed With Them– There is nothing like the smell of victory with our friends. An African proverb is: “If you want to go fast, go alone; if you want to be successful, then take someone else with you.” When we take our friends on the journey of success together, the memories will pull the two of you or the group even tighter together.